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Originally Posted by Freedom
This thread is intended to discuss the impact that the LCM has on people's personality traits and also the results of that impact. It should be noted that I am approaching this topic as someone who was born and raised in the LCM, so I might have a different take on the issue than those who came into the LCM later in life.
Early on, I became aware that in the LCM, certain personality traits like assertiveness were generally frowned upon. I also observed how people acted and interacted, and I took that as an example. The result? I learned to act in a passive way, I learned to not speak up for myself and never I learned how to say "no" to people. Of course, not all of that can be blamed on the LCM, but I feel it is fair to say that the LCM was a big influencing factor.
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I can relate to Freedom. My experiences are uniquely mine, though perhaps others can relate. Whether a teen or a young adult in the Local Churches, I had no empowerment to say no. Just comply. Saying no is akin to being "rebellious". Submission and Authority were the teachings often referenced.
I learned to comply even if your thoughts say no. This affects every day living and not just the time spent in a LC function. I would have thoughts I cannot say no and to do so would make me the villain.
Long term result I ended up having no ownership over my boundaries. Time after time my boundaries ended up being trespassed.