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01-09-2022, 03:42 PM

Felt the sense to reply to your question, OP - I've been perusing the forums for a while and yours resonated because I've had experience with it.

To your latest question, what happens to FTT graduates varies. Some stay within the LR solidly and others fade out quietly. Some are on the peripheral and some wholeheartedly give themselves for the LR. Most live out their lives as before, but with additional knowledge of the Word, ministry, and practices to a degree.

I've graduated from the FTT and married a Christian brother who isn't fully for the LR. We've been married nearly a decade now, and it's a journey (just like it's a journey with God Himself). We were in a relationship prior to the training, and we agreed to put it on hold while I was in the training. It was ROUGH. To be honest, I slightly bent Rule 7 a little during the interims (breaks) by saying hi to him in public meetings. After I graduated, we met up again, caught up, and reaffirmed our feelings for each other. This is a very condensed version of my experience. As Unto Him said, if he really loves you, and really loves God, and you love God, trust in God.

My experience may not be very typical. I can only pray that for you and for him, that it works out for both of you. It's definitely important to see that Christ should be the foundation of your relationship, not the LR. My husband and I have made it thus far because of putting God first, and also just being real with each other thru the years.

And in response to your original question, usually yes, it's okay to marry outside the Recovery. The response may vary depending on many internal/external factors. Where I am at, I have seen marriages where both spouses are in the LR and marriages where one spouse isn't originally or isn't attached to the LR deeply. Recently have seen an engagement where the sister's fiance seems not attached to the LR. If the leading brothers are wise in Christ (one can only hope and pray so), the brothers shouldn't judge.

I myself am going thru my own personal journey on processing my relationship with the LR, with God, with myself, my friends and family in the LR, and in relation to other fellow believers. It's been a bit bumpy but one step at a time. Will be praying for you, OP!

01-09-2022, 03:42 PM	#12
Unregistered Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Relationship Felt the sense to reply to your question, OP - I've been perusing the forums for a while and yours resonated because I've had experience with it. To your latest question, what happens to FTT graduates varies. Some stay within the LR solidly and others fade out quietly. Some are on the peripheral and some wholeheartedly give themselves for the LR. Most live out their lives as before, but with additional knowledge of the Word, ministry, and practices to a degree. I've graduated from the FTT and married a Christian brother who isn't fully for the LR. We've been married nearly a decade now, and it's a journey (just like it's a journey with God Himself). We were in a relationship prior to the training, and we agreed to put it on hold while I was in the training. It was ROUGH. To be honest, I slightly bent Rule 7 a little during the interims (breaks) by saying hi to him in public meetings. After I graduated, we met up again, caught up, and reaffirmed our feelings for each other. This is a very condensed version of my experience. As Unto Him said, if he really loves you, and really loves God, and you love God, trust in God. My experience may not be very typical. I can only pray that for you and for him, that it works out for both of you. It's definitely important to see that Christ should be the foundation of your relationship, not the LR. My husband and I have made it thus far because of putting God first, and also just being real with each other thru the years. And in response to your original question, usually yes, it's okay to marry outside the Recovery. The response may vary depending on many internal/external factors. Where I am at, I have seen marriages where both spouses are in the LR and marriages where one spouse isn't originally or isn't attached to the LR deeply. Recently have seen an engagement where the sister's fiance seems not attached to the LR. If the leading brothers are wise in Christ (one can only hope and pray so), the brothers shouldn't judge. I myself am going thru my own personal journey on processing my relationship with the LR, with God, with myself, my friends and family in the LR, and in relation to other fellow believers. It's been a bit bumpy but one step at a time. Will be praying for you, OP!