Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-23-2018, 06:36 AM
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Replies: 133
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Re: Relationships/Courting
Brother Ohio,
This is a courtroom of public opinion.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion based on what they know however limited the knowledge that opinion is based on.
However, your...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-23-2018, 05:34 AM
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Replies: 133
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-23-2018, 05:31 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
As I said anecdotal examples can be cited to support any position. “It was reported...” .. “I heard...” are indications that your information is not only anecdotal but hearsay.
Drake
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-22-2018, 03:58 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
I agree that it is best to know the person you are marrying.
Still, other than anecdotal I have not seen any evidence that marriages do better or worse with either way.
Drake
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-22-2018, 01:51 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
In retrospect over 4 decades I Have not seen any evidence that suggests hastily arranged marriages or longer courtships endure better of one over the other.
Anecdotal examples can be cited to...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-19-2018, 01:53 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Terry,
Peer pressure.
I don't know.
I always held the view that I came by the Lord's leading, would stay or go based on the leading, but if someone wanted to expedite my departure I would...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-19-2018, 01:47 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Freedom,
Brother Lee was not legalistic in the sense you mean it. . In his personal life he was legalistic or strict and organized. However, he would coach the saints with stories about "socks in...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-16-2018, 10:37 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Trapped,
You are describing a church life that I am unfamiliar with. I never saw young people not meet with MOTOS. Nor have I ever witnessed young people not have friends outside the church life....
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-16-2018, 06:24 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
I have observed what you described above a very few times in the 40 years I have been in the Lord recovery and I disagreed with it when I saw it.
I am objecting to the idea presented that young...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-15-2018, 03:25 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
It depends. In my experience elders did not get involved unless there was an issue such as fornication, or the potential, and then as it affected the church.
Drake
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-15-2018, 03:18 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Sure. However, when the parents are not present, say at a young people’s retreat, then the responsibility falls to the serving ones. Besides, most parents do not object to oversight of their kids in...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-15-2018, 05:49 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
I agree with open communication. I also agree with encouraging an environment of openness. I don’t agree that open means permissive.
My experience is that though most teens pretty much resent...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-15-2018, 05:40 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Unreg,
I learned a long time ago that if you leave young people alone without boundaries trouble will follow. Learning from ones own mistakes will happen anyway but structure and rules are key to...
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-13-2018, 06:41 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-13-2018, 05:21 PM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
Well, now you sound bitter for your own reasons.
But, where do you draw the line? Two teens alone?
Drake
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Forum: Orthopraxy - Christian Practice
04-13-2018, 07:09 AM
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Replies: 133
Views: 15,810
Re: Relationships/Courting
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Why bitter? Your life turned out good, you married someone from the environment in spite of the restriction and are happily going on, and 95% of the young people who did the same thing also...
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